Baby and Siblings

From LoveToKnow Baby

One of the joys of parenthood is watching a baby and siblings form a bond that will last throughout their lifetime. Is it love at first sight, however? Are there steps you can take to make the introduction of the newest member of the family more welcome to her siblings? What do you do about sibling rivalry? How can you help all of your children form a bond that will last forever?

Love at First Sight

This doesn't always happen. In fact, if your new baby is the second child, your firstborn may not be exactly thrilled at her newfound competition for your attention. You may have to help her adjust to the new baby while at the same time continue to meet your new baby's needs. Yes, it's certainly a juggling act!

Baby and Sibling Rivalry

As your baby grows, he'll become more mobile. He won't understand boundaries and limits for a while, and your older child's possessions will be extremely tempting. Don't be surprised if your firstborn becomes more protective and territorial of her belongings and of you!

Preparing For the New Baby

Can you really prepare a child for the arrival of his new brother or sister? Yes, there are steps you can take to pave the way for the newest member of the family. Just be sure you don't begin preparing him too far in advance. Depending upon his age, you may want to wait until your body begins to change before you share the good news. Include your child in shopping for the baby, and let him make some of the simpler decisions.

Baby and Sibling Gifts

As your due date approaches, you'll begin to receive lots of adorable baby gifts. How does your other child feel about all of these presents? She may resent the fact that such a tiny being is receiving all of this attention. You can help by buying inexpensive gifts, wrapping them, and giving them to her when you receive a gift for the baby.

Responsibility and Praise

It is important that you continue to give your child small added responsibilities that make her feel more grown up and important. Continue to praise her as she helps you with the house, the baby, and anything else she does. You are building her self-esteem and giving her an important role in the framework of your family.

Time Heals

Remember that time takes care of lots of problems and concerns. You'll feel overwhelmed and pulled in one hundred different directions. You'll want to take care of your baby, while at the same time continue to give your older child plenty of love and attention. You may not be able to do it all, and don't feel guilty about that! Don't be afraid to ask for help from family and friends. In the meantime, cuddle with your children on the couch as you watch a video or read a favorite book.