Getting Pets Ready for New Babies Interview

From LoveToKnow Baby

Emily Richmond is an award-winning journalist and co-host of The Pet Cast, a twice-weekly podcast and Internet radio program about companion animals. She has written about animal-related issues for more than a decade. Richmond and her miniature schnauzer compete in agility trials, and serve as pet therapy volunteers at a local hospital. Recently, she offered LoveToKnow readers some tips on getting pets ready for new babies.

Emily Richmond discusses introducing pets to a new baby.

What are some strategies parents can use for getting pets ready for new babies?

Take your dog to the park, and spend some time near the playground. Watch how your dog responds to the curious children who approach. When your friend stopped by with her wailing newborn, how did your cat react?
Some parents found it helpful to play recordings of an infant crying, to familiarize their pets with the sound.
Ask your friends to visit with their own children, so that your pet gets accustomed to hubbub.
It’s understandable that the arrival of a new baby demands a great deal of attention, but pets thrive on routine. Do what you can to keep things on schedule – meals, walks, and playtime.
Bring a blanket home from the hospital to get your pet used to the baby’s smell.
When you come home for the first time, don’t rush the introductions. Take a moment to greet and reassure your pet while someone else holds the baby. Sit down, have the baby placed in your arms, and invite your pet over for a closer look. Again, don’t force the issue. There will be plenty of opportunities for them to get to know each other.

Can parents really assume their pet would never harm their child?

Pets, particularly dogs, should never be left alone with infants or very young children. It only takes a second for an unintentional ear-tug or tail pull to result in a serious bite or scratch. And, don’t assume because your dog is small that the danger is lessened. Face bites are actually more common with smaller dogs.

The risk is also higher for dogs that have not been neutered, as they tend to be more territorial and aggressive. Many injuries are also the result of accidental contact, rather than a dog or cat intentionally striking out. That’s why constant adult supervision is essential.

What are some warning signs to watch in pets as they relate to a child or children?

Dogs and cats will often retreat when they’ve had enough. If your dog is wedged under the sofa or your cat has scaled a 10-foot bookcase, take note. Do not let your kids pursue your pets, either by chasing them or pulling them out from a hiding spot. This is another reason why crate training is so valuable; it gives dogs a safe haven and space that is exclusively theirs.

You can lay the foundation for healthy kid-pet relationships long before the baby arrives. Don’t wrestle with your dog, or let your puppy nip you in play. Don’t dangle your fingers and encourage your cat to pounce. Your pet cannot be expected to tell when it’s no longer a game, and the behavior you have encouraged is no longer acceptable.

How should parents react to these warning signs?

Has your dog ever growled at you? Does your dog guard his food or toys? If the answer is yes, you need to consult your veterinarian or a professional trainer. A dog doesn’t need to have a history of aggression to be a potential risk. Similarly, not every warning sign means you need to give up your pet.

Many of these problems can be avoided with basic training. If you don’t set limits and expectations, you are setting your pet up for failure. If your dog doesn’t reliably follow basic commands – such as sit, stay, come, off, and leave it – sign up for a class with your local humane society or obedience club. It’s never too late to start. Old dogs can indeed learn new tricks … and so can their owners.

Is it okay for children and pets to sleep together?

How territorial is your dog? Some animal behaviorists argue that dogs are pack animals, and the “Alpha” of the pack gets the best bed. If training isn’t the top priority, and there are no allergy issues, most experts say there’s no reason why your pets can’t snuggle up with your older children. This should be a mutual decision. If your pet shows no interest in sharing sleeping quarters, don’t force the issue.

The baby’s room should be pet-free zone. Cats love a cozy corner for napping, and what’s more inviting than that brand-new bassinet? Before the baby arrives, make sure the crib is off limits. For most cats, stretching netting over the baby’s bed is enough of a deterrent. If your cat is more determined, consider filling the crib with small balloons when your baby isn't resting in it. One pop will be enough to discourage a return visit. (Be sure the crib is free of any balloons before you put your baby back into the crib.)

As a child grows, how can parents encourage him or her to treat a pet appropriately?

Set a good example. Don’t yell at your pets, throw objects at them or tease them. Make it a family priority to check on your pet before you leave the house and upon your return. Even younger children should be expected to share the responsibility of pet ownership. Your kids’ chores can include filling the water dish and helping with basic grooming.

Do you have any other tips or advice you'd like to share with our readers?

The shelters are full of animals that need loving homes. Keep in mind that responsible breeders don’t advertise in the newspaper, or sell their animals in pet stores.

If your heart is set on a specific breed, plan to attend the next local dog show. Talk to the exhibitors, collect business cards and get on the waiting list for the next litter. If you’re not sure whether it’s the right time to add a pet to the household, find out if your local rescue group needs short-term foster care. This is an excellent way to test whether you and your family are ready for the full-time commitment.