Large Family
From LoveToKnow Baby
Choosing to have a large family isn't an easy decision for some parents. Some people want a large family simply because they treasure the relationships that they have with their siblings. For others, it's a chance to make up for something they feel they missed as an only child or a child of a small family. Some families simply become large families because of adoption or second or third marriages.
Whatever the reason for its creation, there is no doubt that a large family can be challenging. Do you have a comment or a suggestion about large families? If so, please let us hear from you!
Upsizing Your Family
Are you thinking of adding to your family, but in need of a way to convince your spouse? You aren't alone. A growing family can be a great source of enjoyment and pride, but it can also up the stress level in everyone's life.
While it's easy to get caught up in the "what ifs" of the world, the decision to have a large family really belongs to you and your partner alone. No matter who you speak to, you'll find some type of dissenting opinion. This is natural, and while you might want the input of your family, they aren't the ones who will live your life...you are!
You and your partner need to be very clear and upfront with each other as you begin discussing the enlargement of your family dynamics. Sometimes, it helps to simply write things down on a sheet of paper. Both of you can separately make lists of the pros and cons of having a larger family. Then, swap notes and discuss what you've written. This may take several days, weeks, or even months. That's ok, as long as you keep the lines of communication open.
Sibling Rivalry
Many people who are planning a large family worry about sibling rivalry. They wonder if they will be able to love another child as much as they love the child or children they already have. The answer to that question is an emphatic "Yes!"
Will your older child love the newest addition? While he or she may not feel the same adoration you do in the beginning, sibling love will occur over time. Inevitably your children will become best friends, although it might not seem that way at times.
What About the Future?
It's natural to wonder what will happen to your children when you are older or if you and your spouse go through a divorce. In many cases, just the thought of these issues may prevent parents from creating a large family.
Nobody knows what the future will hold. While it may be more of a struggle to raise a large family, especially when it comes to college expenses, insurances, and additional vehicles, a large family can also mean an abundance of blessings for everyone. There will be larger celebrations during the year, more people to share the good and the bad times with, and more people to love.
Support Groups and Sites
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Comments
To whom it may concern:
I am currently engaging in some financial planning in regards to having a family of 8 (2 adults and 6 children). Does anyone know of how I can come across some estimates of what it would take to raise such a family in the St. Louis metropolitan area? Thank you.
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